Does the “Power of Positive Thinking” actually work? Does our reaction to a situation really matter or, does the saying “It is what it is” apply? I hear people say “It is what it is” a lot and I even catch myself uttering those words from time to time. By saying those words, it implies that there’s nothing we can do about that situation and we just have to accept it.
I would agree that many events in our lives lie beyond our control. We can’t have an effect on the sunrise, for example. Sometimes, we work very hard for a job or promotion and we feel that we are the best qualified but it goes to someone else instead. These circumstances may be out of our control but we DO have control over our attitude to the situation!
My mom was one of the most positive people that I have ever known. She would routinely analyze a situation and offer up a positive spin on it. If a person lost their eyesight in an accident, she would say, “At least they can still hear the giggles of their children”. If someone lost their job, she may suggest that “When one door closes, another door opens” and encourage that person to find the bright side of their situation.
This positive attitude is a learned response and it requires constant practice and diligence to ensure that we remain positive. My mom practiced it so much that it carried her through her life and, even through her final days, she maintained that positive energy. It’s not possible to be positive 100% of the time and she wasn’t but, she taught me to constantly analyze my situations and find something positive to say about someone or something.
The phrase: “I Am, I Can, I WILL” resonates deep within me! Mom said it a lot and I use it regularly. We can all use that phrase when faced with any challenge. It serves as a mental pep talk and can calm us down long enough to find the positive aspects of the situation. We can set goals for our lives and tackle them with a plan. To me it is the ultimate positive-attitude response to anything coming our way! Health problems? “I Am, I Can, I WILL” work on getting healthy! Relationship issues? “I Am, I Can, I WILL” find the source of the issue and communicate better! Feeling stuck in your career? “I Am, I Can, I WILL” find the positives in my life and make necessary changes!
It’s not enough to just tell ourselves to be positive. There are some daily tasks that we can do to improve our odds of resisting negativity:
- Keep a journal and daily write down 3-5 things that are great in your life. Start today and do it for at least 2 weeks and you will see great results.
- Send a letter or card to 3 people in your life and let them know what they mean to you and why you are thankful to have them in your life. Making others feel good is a great feeling!
- Filter the negatives in your daily life. Take a break from the mainstream and social media for a while, or at least stop reading the comments from the “Debbie Downers” on your social media feeds. You know who I’m talking about! The people who are constantly complaining about something or putting other people down. Just “hide” them from your page.
- Start your morning with some daily affirmation. Play your favorite song, tell yourself it’s going to be a great day, read your journal entry from yesterday. Give yourself that morning pep talk and repeat it throughout the day. If you need resources, the internet is full of positive energy, tap into it!
- Surround yourself with positive people. There’s an old saying: “You can’t soar like an eagle when you hang with turkeys”! Your friends should make you feel good. Avoid the negative people as much as possible. Your energy is going to be contagious.
Positive attitude starts right NOW and it can only start with you! That’s the beauty of it: YOU have 100% control over it and nobody can take it away from you!
Have an incredible day, everybody! Thanks for reading!
God bless you!